Writing Tips and Etiquette for Wedding Ecards

 Writing well wishes for a newlywed couple can feel like a daunting task. How do you sum up the joy and excitement you feel for their new adventure in a few simple phrases? 

If you’ve got a case of writer’s block, we have tips to get you started along with etiquette to help you avoid any faux pas.

Follow our guide to what to write in a wedding ecards and discover example wishes to make your own.

Wedding Card Writing Tips

Mention both names

When writing wedding wishes, the most important thing to remember is to make out a wedding ecard for both members of the couple. 

If you know the bride, don’t make the mistake of addressing something very personal to just her. Now that she is married, the contents of the card should be relevant to both of the newlyweds.

Make sure it's not generic

Always include a note beyond what is pre-written on the inside. 

Never just sign your name under a Hallmark message. If you’re short on words, say that in your writing. Try: ‘I found this card, and these words were exactly how I felt.’ That gives added emphasis to the card itself.

Be careful with humour

Sarcasm on paper can be hard to read without a smiley face or exclamation point. Avoid topics that could be sensitive to the couple, such as money or the length of the relationship. And though it should go without saying, no divorce jokes.

Get personal

The better you know them, the more personal the card can be. Go with a memory that involves the couple. Sign-offs can be full of love; Our favourites include: “XOXO,” “Elated for you,” “Over the moon for you,” and “Madly in love with you two.”

Wedding Card Etiquette

Bring your card to the ceremony

You should never show up to someone’s home without a token of appreciation for being hosted, and the same goes for weddings. 

It’s a nice gesture that shows gratitude for being invited. This remains true even if you’ve already sent a gift to the couple's home or contributed to a honeymoon fund.

You should write in the card: ‘We hope you enjoy the gift we sent to your home’”. That way, you’re tactfully acknowledging that a gift accompanied your virtual wedding eCards.

Hand it to the right person

If, upon arrival at the ceremony, you do not see a gift station or card box, seek out the wedding planner or venue manager. 

They’ll ferry your card to the bridal suite or another designated place for safekeeping. 

No event professional on hand? Give your card to one of the fathers of the couple, or the best man. The reason has nothing to do with gender. 

It’s about what they would be wearing. They would likely have a suit with pockets, whereas the mothers or maid of honour likely have a tiny evening purse or no pockets at all.

Consider how you address it

Unsure of how the couple will be handling last names? 

There’s an easy workaround: Address the envelope with “To the newlyweds,” “To the Mr. and Mrs.,” “To the Mr. and Mr.,” or “To the Mrs. and Mrs.”

Go with a check, not cash

Planning on including a monetary gift with your card? 

If cash gets misplaced, that’s it. But if you give a check, you can track it. If you see, two months after the wedding, that the check has not been cashed, you can make sure the couple received it.

Send one even if you can't attend

If you’re invited to the wedding but unable to attend, feel free to send a wedding virtual card anytime between when you receive your invitation and a few weeks after the big day. There’s no real time limit on telling a couple how happy you are for them.

Wedding Card Examples

Unsure of what to say when it comes to specific relationships? Here are some specific guidelines on what to write in a wedding card.

For a Couple, You Don't Know Well

Dear [Couple's Names],

Congratulations on your wedding day. I wish you a lifetime of health and happiness.

Best regards,

[Your Name(s)]

For a Co-worker or Employee

Dear [Couple's Names],

Thank you for inviting me to share on this special day! May your marriage be filled with success and happiness.

Best wishes,

[Your Name(s)]

For a Religious Couple

Dear [Couple's Names],

Many prayers for a happy and healthy union. May God bless you and grant you all of life’s joys together.

With love,

[Your Name(s)]

For a Close Friend

Dear [Couple's Names],

I should have known the first time I caught you playing footsie underneath the table in our college cafeteria that we’d end up here one day. From late-night library sessions to even later-night McDonald’s runs, it’s been such a joy adventuring through life with you these past seven years. Here’s to seventy more. 

XOXO,

[Your Name(s)]

For a Sibling

To the newlyweds—

I’ll never forget that first Thanksgiving when Everett let his new girlfriend take the last slice of pumpkin pie without complaining. I knew something was different then, and now, here we are! Lindsey, you’ve been like a sister to me these past few years, and today, I couldn’t be happier to officially call you my sister-in-law. Welcome to the family! I’m so happy for you both.

Love and congratulations,

[Your Name(s)]

For a Child

[Couple's Names],

The greatest hope a parent has for their child is that they find a partner to travel through life with. Today, my daughter/son gains that partner and I gain a son/daughter. What a wonderful moment for our family, and for the one that you two have now begun. May everything that comes next be as filled with joy as this day is.

All my love,

Mom and/or Dad

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